HOW DO HABITS CHANGE?
There is unfortunately no specific set of steps guaranteed to work for every person but for sure, we know habits cannot be eradicated but can be replaced.
Habit is a three step process. Cue, routine and reward process. If we keep the same cue and the same reward, we can insert a new routine.
But that is not enough. For a habit to change, people must believe change is possible. Most often that change comes with the help of a group.
If you want to quit a bad habit – smoking, drinking, sex addiction, hot tempers, and all forms of addiction… Figure out a different routine that will satisfy the graving fuelled by the stimulus. Then, find a support group, a collection of other former addicts or people who are free from it. This group can be a community of as few as two. They will help you believe you can stay away from the addiction. Contact them when you feel you going to stumble.
The evidence is clear. If you want to change a habit, you must find an alternative routine and your odds of success go up dramatically when you commit to changing as part of a group..
Remember, believe is essential, and it grows out of a communal experience even if that community is as large as two.
We know change can happen. We also know change is a factor of determination and effort. It’s not going to be so easy to change without these two factors. Remember, when there is no will, there is will power. You will become who you will to become if you will to become.