HOW DO HABITS CHANGE?
There is unfortunately no specific set of steps guaranteed to work for every person but for sure, we know habits cannot be eradicated but can be replaced.
Habit is a three step process. Cue, routine and reward process. If we keep the same cue and the same reward, we can insert a new routine.
But that is not enough. For a habit to change, people must believe change is possible. Most often that change comes with the help of a group.
If you want to quit a bad habit – smoking, drinking, sex addiction, hot tempers, and all forms of addiction… Figure out a different routine that will satisfy the graving fuelled by the stimulus. Then, find a support group, a collection of other former addicts or people who are free from it. This group can be a community of as few as two. They will help you believe you can stay away from the addiction. Contact them when you feel you going to stumble.
The evidence is clear. If you want to change a habit, you must find an alternative routine and your odds of success go up dramatically when you commit to changing as part of a group..
Remember, believe is essential, and it grows out of a communal experience even if that community is as large as two.
We know change can happen. We also know change is a factor of determination and effort. It’s not going to be so easy to change without these two factors. Remember, when there is no will, there is will power. You will become who you will to become if you will to become.
Whatever a man saweth, also shall he reap.
The amount of money you gonna receive is in direct ratio to:
1. The need of what you do.
2. The ability to do it.
3. The difficulty there is in replacing you.
– This is a law worth a million when fully understood. It is however violated by many, especially those who do enough to get by, just so they don’t get fired and the company just pays them enough so they don’t quit.
– when you become very effective at what you do, you will become very difficult to get replaced. When you perform every task to your best, you bring out the best that is in you. It is key to understand that you have infinite potential. Only you can limit yourself. Remember always that you are an incredible person.
You get back exactly what you put in. You put a Lot, you get back a lot.
The law of compensation is based on what you do. Put the energy out there, put the full efforts. Get better at what you are doing. Say! ” I am going to get better at what am doing ” and your whole world will get better. Get better in your thoughts, association, vocabulary and control of you. If you can take control, control how you control your self control in every action.
Sometimes it’s just Interesting learning some great truths, they wow your mind and make you feel different once you learn and apply them. Here is a list of some beautiful truths .
1. We are beings of power, intelligence and love. We are the lords of our thoughts. We hold the key to every situation. I repeat, every situation. With this key, we can make and do what we will.
2. Every act is a blossom of thought. Joy and suffering are the fruits. Man has the choice to choose. All forms of positive thoughts which includes all the virtues bring joy while all forms of negative thoughts and vibration including all vices lead to suffering.
” Thought in the mind hath made us,
What we are by thought was wrought and build,
If man’s mind hath evil thoughts,
Pain comes on him as wheel the ox behind…
If one endure in purity of thought,
Joy follow him as shadow ”
3. Character is the complete sum of all thoughts. By abuse and wrong application of thought, man descends below the beast. But by right choice, man ascends to Godliness and develops Godlike character.
4. Good thoughts are not a result of chance or favor. They are a result of continued effort in the right thinking, the effect of long cherished association with Godlike thoughts. Ignoble character, that’s below the beast is a result of harbouring grovelling thoughts…
4. Man is the master of thought, the moulder of character and the maker and shaper of condition, environment and destiny.
5. One becomes the master of himself only when he learns he is a creature of inside condition and not outside. That he is a creative power and he can command the hidden thoughts of which circumstances grow. Practice of self control leads to a controlled life. Change in circumstances is always in exact ratio to change in mental condition.
7. We all attract what we secretly harbour, what we love and what we fear.
Finally, I love the law of the farm and would love to remind you this morning. The law of the farm states, “You reap exactly what you sow ” Good thoughts bear good fruits and bad thoughts bear bad fruits. A little effort bears little results. Extraordinary effort bears extraordinary results. Nature will never allow every effort go without an equivalent reward.
Good day. Cheers 😊
I have come to realize that at the base of success, there is one basic stone that if it’s missing, success may not be a reality.
“On the best sunny day, the most powerful magnifying glass will not light paper if you keep moving the glass. But if you focus and hold it, the paper will light up. That is the power of concentration.
A man was traveling and stopped at an intersection. He asked an elderly man, “Where does this road take me?” The elderly person asked, “Where do you want to go?” The man replied, “I don’t know.” The elderly person said, “Then take any road. What difference does it make?”
How true. When we don’t know where we are going, any road will take us there.
Suppose you have all the football eleven players, enthusiastically ready to play the game, all charged up, and then someone took the goal post away. What would happen to the game? There is nothing left. How do you keep score? How do you know you have arrived?
Enthusiasm without direction is like wildfire and leads to frustration. Goals give a sense of direction. Would you sit in a train or a plane without knowing where it was going? The obvious answer is no. Then why do people go through life without having any goals?”
WHAT IS YOUR RATE?
To rate someone well, we always have to look at three things.
1. Quality of services.
How efficient are you in your mind on how you do your work? How best are the services you offer? How good is the performance or rather, how well are you versed with the details of what you are doing? These are the questions you should always ask yourself. It is your responsibility to make sure you provide quality services. Best services. Very efficient services. Make sure you are performing highly in whatever you do.
2. Quantity of services.
Always have the habit of increasing the services you offer. Improve on the skills you have each and every time. This also has to do with thinking big. There is a difference between someone who owns only one supermarket and one who is owning one but in the process of expanding the supermarket a thousand fold. Develop the habit of always improving and increasing. Bigger and better services equal better and bigger returns.
3. Spirit of service.
The spirit in which you offer services is a big determining factor on how you will be rated or how successful you will be or your businesses will be. Always have a positive attitude, positive mind, imaginative mind and while rendering your services. Imagine and think of ways you can influence, be better and perform a lot better. The spirit will also control how efficient or how others will associate with you. Remember, with the right emotions, you can do almost anything you dream of. Learn to offer a peaceful and harmonious spirit.
“When bestselling French author Dominique Lapierre visited India to work on a new book, he wanted to travel in style. So he purchased a silver-and-black Rolls-Royce Silver Cloud, and had the luxury car shipped to him in Mumbai. He crisscrossed the Indian subcontinent in the vehicle while researching and writing Freedom at Midnight.
The book’s success earned Lapierre a sizeable royalty check, and he decided to give part of the money to an Indian charity out of gratitude. Not knowing where to make the donation, he decided to visit Mother Teresa in Calcutta, assuming she would know how to put the money to good use. She introduced him to James Stevens, an Englishman caring for children in the city’s slums who suffer from leprosy.
At the time, Stevens was running out of cash. He had nearly exhausted his personal savings in his efforts to educate the leprous children and to cure as many of them as possible. Amazed by Stevens’ compassion, and the hope he had restored to so many kids, Lapierre vowed to provide ongoing financing of his humanitarian work. To this end, the author began giving away 50% of his book royalties. To date, the Resurrection Home, the shelter funded by Lapierre, has cured more than 9,000 children infected with leprosy.
Lapierre began his journey to India with a desire to enjoy the heights of luxury. He left having gained a passion to rescue children from the misery of leprosy. His change of attitude is summed up in the words of an Indian poem now printed on the back of his business cards: “All that is not given is lost.”
Lapierre decided to be a river and not a reservoir. He stopped pooling up his wealth, spending it on himself, and instead donated it to benefit children in need. Moreover, he physically put himself in the middle of suffering. When living prosperously, we tend to distance ourselves from misery. We move to affluent neighborhoods, play at pristine parks, dine at the fine restaurants, and shop at elegant boutiques. If we aren’t careful, we lose touch with the reality of neediness that so many people around us experience on a day-to-day basis. Giving money is great, but serving others in-person reminds us of why generosity is so very important.”