It’s on a Tuesday morning and as usual , the alarm goes off at 4:30 am. You jump out of bed as if to shout ” Yaaay! It’s another day to live and enjoy or maybe smile “. You don’t have to make decisions or thinking over what to do next for your mornings have been programmed into strong habits. One hour on Bible study, thirty minutes reading white estate and another hour reading personal development books.
This morning is however a different one. You find yourself struggling to read. You can’t pay attention, you can’t listen. It’s about a broken heart . .. A loss of purpose to some extent . ..The mind keeps drifting back to the last conversation, to the thoughts you had about the relationship and the pain of not meeting your goal. You know how it feels when you face this.
Dr Stephen Covey defines a break up as a failure to meet a goal or expectations. It takes something out of you. Maybe this is why it is very key never to make goals that can’t be achieved. Achieving a goal is like making a deposit into your self esteem and confidence bank and failure to do so is like withdrawing. But all in all, you must set goals for a goal is like the bank account.
Oh, It’s the last day of the month ! You quickly realize its that day to develop a new habit. Over the past months, you have developed habits like drinking 8 cups of water, waking up at 4:30 am, reading atleast 3hours daily, doing a weekly and monthly analysis lest you let the week and month go without learning anything from it, writing a diary, keeping a journal, reading a book every week and so on. Very good habits .
Then you realize you have vowed to live, love, learn and leave a legacy by living a balanced life ( Socially , physically , mentally and spiritually ).. Bingo ! Exercise is the new habit.
Since today reading is not working , maybe exercise will work. Infact, you feel like you are full of energy mixed with anger and will. So you take your track suit and sports shoes, headphones and off you go.
Why had I not started this long time ago? you ask yourself as you feel exited. You can feel the gentle breeze , the cool morning air, it’s just a wow moment . .. Covey is seriously lecturing in your headphones about the habits of highly effective people. His words are so powerful, interesting truths earned from deep study, inspiring and wise. His stories are just awesome, and emphatic .
Twenty minutes pass, then thirty, then fourty , then fifty but still you are not tired and neither have you stopped even once. You are now deep in the estates around Lavington . Every kid is being dropped, every house is just awesome but you are able to point the type you want to live in one day, the best of them all. The air in this side is just so refreshing. The view of the rising sun, the type of trees .. indeed it’s a picturesque scenery . ..
It’s time to go back, but as usual , you don’t use the same route (Highschool geography ). Sometimes back, you have been to these places to just admire or attend a seminar or take an evening walk. You are curried by the stories and lessons in your head and soon you find yourself in the slams of Kawangware. You are forced to slow down as there are thousands of people walking along. There are around five hundred people in a stretch of 200 metres . .. You wonder where all these people are heading and where they come from. From the look on their faces, they are depressed or desparate or tired or hungry or demotivated. Everyone is in a hurry.
Soon, you realize you missed the road by just one lane. Now you are deep in the slums. The looks around are not good. It’s a real poverty case. No water, no roads, no sanitation , no grass, no trees, nothing looks clean apart from the sky, many wondering dogs – some without limbs, street kids sniffing glue. . .. It’s all a mess. Suffering all around.
It now makes sense why you should teach people to live a meaningful life, life of blessedness , joy, abundance , love, greatness , character and abundance life full of virtues.
Study shows that it is because of lack of thinking that people end up suffering , doing what they don’t want to do, living where they don’t want to live, dating someone they would not wish to, doing the job they don’t like … Failure in thinking therefore may be the reason to mediocrity.
Soon, after 1 hour 40 minutes, you are back home. You have learned a lot, a little tired, sweating …but you have made choices , you have dreamed and made goals and now, it’s time to take note of everything . You can’t trust your mind to remember it all.
Man is the master of his thoughts, character, habits and choices. Man is a being of power. We are not spiders or crocodiles who cannot think and use our brains. Even when times seem so hard, we still have the power.
While studying the works of Ellen G White and other personal development books like those of James Allen, Andrew Carnegie, Stephen R. Covey, Napoleon Hill …I learned that love is the strongest emotion. Depending on how it is used, it can lead to total misery or total success.
A broken heart has turned many into great people. It has created the best poets, the best writers, the best leaders and the best parents. Andrew Carnegie taught that if people would focus on a goal, dwell on positive vibrations or do something constructive during a break up, they would end up doing great works and achieving great results. Why? There is power in a broken heart, there is energy to work with hunger.
When you have a broken heart, don’t do what you know it is wrong. Don’t smoke or drink or lose character but strive to be a better person. Work harder on yourself than on your job. Do what you love and above all, do not let go of your self control , the power to control your thoughts. A break up will be painful but remember you can rise and be a better person. As with matters of love, you will know when you find the right person.