Success today #264


We are all a sum total of our memories,
Good and bad memories,
Good memories are made on purpose,
They don’t just happen.

Let’s remind ourselves of the good memories,
Let’s thank each other for creating good room,
Good atmosphere to create good memories,
In which beautiful memories could take place.

We’ve got much to tell, to tell,
We’ve got so much as a family to tell,
We’ve got so much as friends to tell,
So let’s make a good memory today.

We are the keepers of each others memories,
Let’s always express our gratitude,
In the process, of being thankful,
We will make some new amazing memories of our own.


Success today #263

Success Today Key points.


– Always have a compelling reason to do something, for being somewhere. What reason do you have to be where you are, are you just waiting to be pushed like a wheelbarrow. Sit down and think what you want to achieve. Make sure you have a compelling strong reason.

– Have a burning desire, something eating you up, something that is pushing you. You can have a reason but without a desire, you can do nothing. Think, have the desire that will make you not sleep. Have a burning desire always to do something great. People who succeed are people who have a desire, people who have made a decision to do something great, something that is not like a walk in the park, a desire to excel, a desire to succeed, a desire to be persistent in the set goals, a desire not to bend principles, a great big desire. What is your desire? A desire to have a good better and awesome tomorrow.

– Have the discipline. Discipline makes you do things that are hard otherwise. Discipline to say no to what you know is wrong, discipline to move away from the sheep, discipline to do first things first, discipline to delay gratification, discipline to behave well, discipline to do the right thing. Its discipline that takes you to places. However, keep your discipline constant, even when no one is watching. Have the discipline to forfeit short term gratification. You are lost without discipline.

– Never give up. Always keep your Hope, don’t succumb to hopelessness. Learn to handle No. Have the fighting spirit. Remember, perseverance never loses. Most often we lose hope when we are just about to succeed. I was born a Victor, I will die a victor but never a victim. I will die a star. I may have scars but I’ll be a star.

– Born as first born in a polygamous family of five wives with many siblings. He is left to be bread winner to all after the dad passed away… But he never became a failure. He worked hard, passed well and went to Moi to do computer science. He graduates became an IBM manager in Kenya, goes on to be the IBM manager in East Africa then the LENOVO manager in Africa Region, then an mp and now the cabinet Secretary. It takes persistence to win.

Success today #262



What a heavenly peace fills my mind,
What a sweet joy to see blessings from heaven,
Help me master, to walk in your ways,
Be light unto my path,that I may glorify you.

Help me pant after you with zeal and sincerity,
As the hart panted after the water-brooks,
Strengthen me, teach me and lead me,
Be light unto my path, that I may glorify you.

Success is real when it comes from you,
I must know you to walk, talk, dress and act,
What will it profit to succeed few years and lose heaven?
Be light unto my path, that I may glorify you.

Open us possibilities of heavenly investment,
Make us more precious that fine gold,
Teach us to seek riches that are imperishable,
Be light unto our path, that we may glorify you.

Success today #261

Why You Need Positive People in Your Life

Happiness is a choice. But we continually need to be reminded by people to make that choice.

Shawn Achor

*One big mistake people make is not realizing that happiness is an individual choice. But every choice is influenced by the people in our lives. If you change your life influencers for the better, you can dramatically increase your chances for happiness and success.

In my research, I’ve found that positive social connection is the greatest predictor of long-term happiness. Welcoming a positive new influencer into your world can be one of the most important choices for happiness you make. That person might be a professional life coach or a mentor or simply someone whom you respect and who has the positive outlook you want to emulate.

A positive influencer will have a few outstanding traits that rub off on you over time. This person will practice gratitude. He will seek joy daily and work at becoming his best self. He’ll enjoy being active and feel connected to others.

Think about the negative influences around you. These are people who focus on the bad things in their lives and cause you to do the same. You’ll be left searching for new problems to worry over. Negative influencers don’t smile or laugh easily. They have trouble maintaining relationships and see stress as a threat rather than a challenge to embrace. Steer clear!

We know that happiness is a choice. But we continually need to be reminded by people to make that choice, especially when life gets challenging. Think about the people you know who could be positive influencers and spend more time with someone who will improve your happiness and lead you to greater success




– Success is a progressive realization of a worthy goal or idea.
– People with goals succeed because they know where they are going.
– 90% fail because they believe life is shaped by external forces. They therefore face life as it is.
– A successful person is one who is doing a deliberate job because he made a decision to do so some time BACK. He is the top student because he decided long before to be! He is a CEO of a big company because he deliberately wanted to, he is a doctor because he decided so and loves being a doctor.
– Don’t compete, create.
– What will happen to a boat just drifting on the ocean, without any destination? Imagine your life as being like the boat. Without a destination, or a goal, you will land on a deserted beach.
– The human race is fixed, not to prevent the strong from winning but the weak from losing.
– We become what we think about.
– Everything begins with an idea.
– Anyone can change life direction by changing the attitude of mind.

Success today #259



“When talking about consciousness and how it interacts with the mind, there is a simple analogy that I like to use. And that is the analogy of a prism.

The Mind as a Prism

When light is passed through a prism it goes through 2 layers of modification also known as diffraction. Diffraction is a phenomenon in which the path of light is changed when it interacts with a transparent surface such as glass or water.  Upon interacting, the light seems to “bend and spread” and its intensity becomes somewhat diffused. In a prism this diffraction happens twice: once when the light enters the prism and second when the light leaves it. And so, the end result is a spectrum of different colors (wavelengths) of light; each uniquely identifiable from the other.

Our human brains operate in much the same way. Each of our brains comprises of two hemispheres much like the two surfaces of the prism. They are the right-brain and the left-brain.

Now, the right-brain is the experiencer: it feels, it absorbs, it emotes and intuits. It is designed to induce in us the sense of phenomena, of movement and of existence. The right brain has no concept of time as a linear sequence of events. Rather it is purely present-moment centered. It has no means of differentiating between one moment and the next, because it is always operating in real-time. And so the right-brain’s primary motivation is to experience wholly and fully this present moment regardless of how it may appear.

On the other hand, the left brain is the interpreter: it analyzes, calculates, plans and forecasts. It is designed to take the sensory-based perception of the right-brain and to translate it into information much like a computer processor translates 1’s and 0’s into readable language. And so the left-brain’s concept of time is purely linear. It views every moment as an independent package of time on a sequential number line extending from the past to the present. To the left-brain, the ‘present moment’ is not any more special than any other moment. And so the left-brain’s primary motivation is to “optimize the timeline” for the best possible outcome scenario. At every step of the way, it is constantly recalculating its trajectory based on its view of the past and its projection of the future; much like the GPS on your car is always re-calculating in order to choose the best path forward.

So you can see that these left and right brain functions are actually quite contradictory to each other and yet this whole brain is designed to function as a single unit. And that is because there exists, between these two hemispheres, a communication pathway known as the ‘corpus callosum’. This corpus callosum is a dense collection of neural fibers which enables the transmission of information back and forth between the two hemispheres. And it is in essence where the sense of the self resides.

The Double Diffraction of Consciousness

As in the prism analogy, consciousness enters in through the right-brain (the first face of the prism) which I also call the spiritual interface. Here it experiences its first diffraction: the distortion of undifferentiated consciousness into a flux of conscious energies. These are the emotional and sensual energies that all of us experience. It is this flux which generates within us the experience of a ‘sense of existence’.

At this point in its transition, consciousness has been modified into an energy flux that is experience-able but is as yet unintelligible to the mind. In other words, it can be felt but not reflected upon or understood. For that consciousness must pass through the second hemisphere of the left-brain (the second face of the prism) which I also call the material interface. Here the diffraction further distorts this flux of energies into clearly defined boundaries of experience, which can be interpreted through the faculty of thought. Rather than simply feel, consciousness can now think, analyze, evaluate and reason. This two-step process of differentiating consciousness results in our view of the material world: a world with clear lines and boundaries of experience.

In infancy when our left-brain faculties have yet to fully set in, the experience of the world tends to be more seamless. Our ability to differentiate between things: objects, emotions, people and places is as yet rudimentary. And we rarely use thought other than in the form of a few fleeting images, because language is an ability we have yet to discover. In short, the material world is less material, in the sense that it appears less solid and more fluid, both perceptually and experientially.

But as we grow older and our capacity to reason, to evaluate and to understand increases so does our view of the world crystallize into a more rigid and hence more easily captured sequence of instances. Just like a camera takes a scene and renders it into a number of static images, our left brains render the experience of life into thoughts and images which are informational but in essence have no real ‘life’ of their own.

The Paradox of the Self

Because humans are unique in that their left-brains are so highly developed, the sheer amount of information passing through the corpus callosum, in both directions, is tremendous. As a result of this two-way traffic, not only do we have the ability to be aware, but we also have the ability to be aware that we are aware: in other words to be self-aware. This self-awareness would not be possible if the traffic was predominantly one way. In most animals and even in human infants, that is in fact the case. They are aware, but not fully self-aware. Self-awareness is a function that can only be optimally activated by a fully developed left-brain.

And so what is the self? The answer depends on which direction your awareness is pointing. Because this self is merely a vector. Simply put a vector is a directional pointer: like a weather vane, which points whichever way the wind blows. The self too is simply a vector. In other words, the form it assumes depends purely on the direction awareness is pointed in.

So if the self is pointing towards the external world (to the prism’s second face), it is viewing the left-brain’s projection of a finite material person: the spectrum created by the prism. It sees the body of an individual person and says “this person is me”. It sees thoughts and feelings and says “these thoughts and feeling are mine.” It sees objects and bodies around it and says “this is mine, he is mine, she is mine.” It creates the image of duality: a separate individual interacting with a much vaster world.

Yet, when the direction of the vector is reversed to point towards the inner world of the right-brain (the prism’s first face), the experience of self becomes something radically different. Here things are less clear, boundaries are far hazier and nothing really makes ‘sense’ from a thought perspective. The experience is one of a moment by moment flux of energies, emotions and sensations. It is far more intense in terms of experience, because consciousness has only been diffracted, and hence diffused, once. Here the self cannot differentiate and separate. The experience is more holistic. From this perspective the self cannot say “I am this” or “this is mine”, rather all it can say is that “I am”. And so the inner experience is one of singularity: of oneness and unity.

And so the self can either be experienced as a duality or a unity depending on which way it is oriented. Yet, it has no inherent form of its own. It simply assumes the image of what it is directed at. And this is why the self is often experienced as changeful. It is a chameleon with the ability to adapt to any color within the spectrum but has no original color of its own.

The Nature of Consciousness

When the white light has passed through a prism and casts a visible spectrum (rainbow) what differentiates each color from the next is its frequency. The cooler colors (the blues and indigos) have higher frequencies and the warmer colors (reds and oranges) have shorter frequencies. This is the same within the spectrum of conscious experience. Light-natured experiences and emotions (like joy and love) can be said to have a higher vibrational frequency than the dark-natured experiences and emotions (like fear and anger).

Yet, the “visible” spectrum is only a small portion of the spectrum that light creates. It is only that portion that is perceivable by the human eye. Beyond the visible spectrum lies the greater scope of the electromagnetic spectrum that our eyes are not naturally built to perceive, for which we have invented instruments to detect them (including gamma rays, microwaves etc. on the top end and infrared rays, radio waves etc. on the bottom)

Similarly, there are vibrational levels of conscious experience above and below the levels of human consciousness that our brains are not accustomed to experiencing and that do not manifest in our material reality. We tend to refer to these as the “non-physical planes” for lack of a better word. And within these planes of non-physical reality there are conscious experiences of much higher (light-nature) and a much lower (dark-nature) vibrational frequencies than we can be aware.

But what is the nature of consciousness? What is its vibrational frequency?

Light entering a prism comprises the entire spectrum of frequencies within it, yet has no frequency of its own. Frequency is a term that becomes operative within the boundaries of the spectrum, not outside of it.

Similarly, consciousness comprises the entire spectrum of natures (all levels of light and dark experience) and all the possible vibrational frequencies within it. And yet, it has no vibrational frequency of its own. It is empty of any means of classification. Because every means of classification is limited to the boundaries of the conscious spectrum and cannot be applied to consciousness itself.

And so the nature of consciousness is that it has none. Or another way of interpreting it is that the nature of consciousness is empty.

The No-Self

Return to the self as the vector. We previously saw two possible identifications that the self could have, based on its orientation. The first was the left-brain view of an individual self, separated from the material world: that of an ego. The second was the right-brain view of a single self no separate from the inner world: that of the seamless “I am” experience.

There is a third view, when the vector projects itself past even the left-brain view to contemplate consciousness even before it has been diffracted for the first time. And in this image it sees absolutely nothing. All it sees a blank and empty canvas. This is the image of the no-self. Because in this moment, even that “I am” experience no longer exists. Everything vanishes, including the “I”, the prism and the consciousness interacting with it. All is reduced to nothing.

The encounter of the no-self is like crossing the event horizon of a black hole. Up until the event horizon, even though all matter (ego identity) has been sucked in by its vacuum, light (the “I am”) still persists. But the moment the event horizon is crossed, even light ceases to exist. All that remains is a vast open void of pure potentiality and endless possibility. It is the seed of creation from which an entire universe comes into existence. When the self encounters this perspective, it realizes that its own reality is just imagination.”

Success Today #258


Just Say It!

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?
Stephen Levine
One night, after reading one of the hundreds of parenting books I’ve read, I was feeling a little guilty because the book had described some parenting strategies I hadn’t used in a while. The main strategy was to talk with your child and use those three magic words: “I love you.” It had stressed over and over that children need to know that unconditionally and unequivocally that you really love them.
I went upstairs to my son’s bedroom and knocked on the door. As I knocked, all I could hear were his drums. I knew he was there but he wasn’t answering. So I opened the door and, sure enough, there he was sitting with his earphones on, listening to a tape and playing his drums. After I leaned over to get his attention, I said to him, “Tim, have you got
a second?” He said, “Oh sure, Dad. I’m always good for one.” We proceeded to sit
down and after about 15 minutes and a lot of small talk and stuttering, I just looked at him and said, “Tim, I really love the way you play
He said, “Oh, thanks, Dad, I appreciate it.”
I walked out of the door and said, “See you later!” As I was walking downstairs, it dawned on me that I went up there with a certain message and had not delivered it. I felt it was really important to get back up there and have another chance to say those three magic words.

Again I climbed the stairs, knocked on the door and opened it. “You got

a second, Tim?” “Sure, Dad. I’m always good for a second or two. What do you need?”
“Son, the first time I came up here to share a message with you, something else came out. It really wasn’t what I wanted to share with
you. Tim, do you remember when you were learning how to drive, it caused me a lot of problems? I wrote three words and slipped them under your pillow in hopes that would take care of it. I’d done my part
as a parent and expressed my love to my son.” Finally after a little small
talk, I looked at Tim and said, “What I want you to know is that we love

you.” He looked at me and said, “Oh, thanks, Dad. That’s you and Mom?”

I said, “Yeah, that’s both of us, we just don’t express it enough.”
He said, “Thanks, that means a lot. I know you do.” I turned around and walked out the door. As I was walking downstairs, I
started thinking, “I can’t believe this. I’ve already been up there twice—I
know what the message is and yet something else comes out of my mouth.”
I decided I’m going back there now and let Tim know exactly how I feel. He’s going to hear it directly from me.
I don’t care if he is six feet tall! So back I go, knock on the door and he yells “Wait a minute. Don’t tell me who it is. Could that be you, Dad?” I said, “How’d you know that?” and he responded, “I’ve known you ever
since you were a parent, Dad.”
Then I said “Son, have you got just one more second?” “You know I’m good for one, so come on in. I suppose you didn’t tell me what you wanted to tell me?” I said, “How’d you know that?” “I’ve known you ever since I was in diapers.”
I said, “Well, here it is, Tim, what I’ve been holding back on. I just want to express to you how special you are to our family. It’s not what you do, and it’s not what you’ve done, like all the things you’re doing with
the junior high kids in town. It’s who you are as a person. I love you and I just wanted you to know I love you, and I don’t know why I hold back on something so important.”
He looked at me and he said, “Hey, Dad, I know you do and it’s really special hearing you say it to me. Thanks so much for your thoughts, as well as the intent.” As I was walking out the door, he said, “Oh, hey,
Dad. Have you got another second?” I started thinking, “Oh no. What’s he going to say to me?” I said, “Oh sure. I’m always good for one.” I don’t know where kids get this—I’m sure it couldn’t be from their
parents, but he said, “Dad, I just want to ask you one question.” I said, “What’s that?”
He looked at me and said, “Dad, h

ave you been to a workshop or something like that?” I’m thinking, “Oh no, like any other 18-year-old, he’s got my number,” and I said, “No, I was reading a book, and it said how important it is to tell your kids how you really feel about them.”
“Hey, thanks for taking the time. Talk to you later, Dad.” I think what Tim taught me, more than anything else that night is that
the only way you can understand the real meaning and purpose of love is to be willing to pay the price. You have to go out there and risk sharing it.

Gene Bedley